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to watch
a video about the
Learn to Be All You Can
Be parenting expo
that was held Nov. 15,
2008 in Montebello, CA.
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Welcome!
Welcome to
the Winter 2009 edition of Tips for
Effective Parenting, the newsletter for
parent members of the National Effective Parenting
Initiative.
This issue contains four brief
articles addressing such important parenting
matters as the critical emotional needs of
children, and facing tough financial times.
It also covers the
matter of moving from one house to another and how
best to prepare children.
This issue then addresses how to make
allowances work. Several books in the left
margin are about allowances and money matters with
children.
All the
articles and books are written by subject matter
authorities from major parenting education
groups.
Feel feel to share this practical guidance
with others and do encourage them to also
become members of NEPI.
Warmly,
Kerby T. Alvy
NEPI Founder, Board of
Advisors
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The Five
Critical Needs of
Children
by Gerald Newmark,
Ph.D.
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On January 15, 2009,
the Project Partners of the Uniting Los Angeles
for Effective Project met to discuss ways to
advocate, celebrate, and promote effective
parenting and parenting education.
A
main speaker at the meeting was one of the
Projects newest partners, Gerald Newmark, Ph.D.
author of How To Raise Emotionally Healthy
Children. Dr. Newmark captivated the groups
attention by outlining what he feels are the "Five
Critical Needs of Children."
Here are
Dr. Newmark's five critical needs and what he has
to say about them...
1. Need
to Feel
Respected Children need to feel respected. For that
to happen, they need to be treated in a courteous,
thoughtful, attentive and civil manner-as
individuals, deserving of the same courtesy and
considerateness as others. One of the best ways
for children to learn about respect is to feel
what it's like to be treated respectfully and to
observe their parents and other adults treating
each other the same way.
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Face Tough Financial Times
with KIds by Talking, Having
Fun
by Alyssa
Martina, Detroit News
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 It's hard to tune in
to anything these days and avoid hearing the
dismal economic news. For parents, financial
worries mean having to pinch pennies as they take
a new approach to family finances. The anxiety and
strain of cutting back can prove a challenge when
parents can't afford to spend as much on their
children as they had previously. From vacations
and holiday gifts to groceries and family
entertainment, parents, like never before, are
scrutinizing what they're
spending.
However, cutting costs
doesn't necessarily have to mean cutting fun or
family time together. Also, there are many ways to
ensure your kids are free from the anxieties and
concerns that parents face.
To begin,
it's important parents "check" their worries at
the door. While you don't want to paint a
Disneyland fantasy of your situation, you want
your kids to feel secure and hopeful. If you
transmit your fears to your children, they'll pick
up on them and quickly internalize them as fears
of their own. Of course, you should also take into
consideration the age of your children and only
have age-appropriate conversations with
them.
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Kids and
Moving
by Diane
Schmidt,
About.Com |
Just
like Mailia and Sasha Obama, the nation's
new "First Kids," children need some special love
and attention when it comes to moving into a new
house or apartment. After their father was sworn
in as the 44th President of the United States, the
staff at the White House organized a scavenger
hunt for the girls to help them get familiar with
their new surroundings.
On the
About.com Web site, Diane Schmidt has an article,
Kids and Moving - Helping Them Settle
In.
Here are some of her tips
and suggestions...
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Kids
and moving - it's difficult and once all the
packing and moving is completed now they need to
settle into the new space. For children and teens
this may be the hardest adjustment they have to
make. Saying goodbye to old friends was difficult
but the excitement of moving to a new home in a
new neighborhood can sometimes reduce the initial
anxiety they might
feel.
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Making Allowances Work
by Jody Johnston Pawel,
Parent's Tool
Shop |
Allowances are a controversial practice for
developing responsibility. Some parents view
allowance as a privilege children earn, while
others view it as each family member's right. Most
parents connect allowances to chores - but this
often leads to problems.
Both allowances and chores each teach
life skills. Allowances can teach money
management: how to earn, save, budget, and
prioritize purchases. Chores can teach cooperation
and responsibility: pitching in as a member of the
family, following through on agreements, and doing
quality work.
Separately, each is a valuable teaching
tool. When combined, however, problems often
arise.
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